Everyone has fears. I can say this boldly and with confidence because I have experienced it first-hand. One of the fears one can experience in life is the fear of failing, or even the fear of an unknown or an unforeseen circumstance. Sometimes fear can be so over whelming that one even denies to face what they need to do in life. I realized that one of the best things that can happen is to be you. One of the amazing things one can do to overcome this fear is to actually face the fear, and when you do, trust me that any iota of fear you had or anything you were afraid of will be easier than you thought. According to my definition of fear, fear is a person. Yes, you heard me ‘a person’. Fear is more than just a feeling because these feelings arise from the physical, emotional, and even spiritual Aspect of our lives.
In this blog post, I want to share with you reading that, even the first blog post I wrote (here) or this blog post you are reading, and even this blog as a whole has suffered procrastination from me due to the fact that I had a lot of fear, and with fear comes procrastination, and a lot of talking down on yourself. When fear is involved, it is always one excuse after another, or bringing up imaginary reasons why you are not currently doing the things that you want to do.
Some of the excuses I gave myself was either I do not have enough resources to start writing or I do not know how to write on a very captivating topic or I do not know how to start. Trust me that I was the leader of procrastination, and I will give all sought of excuses so that I would not feel guilty for being lazy and so adamant to change. Sometimes I even tell myself that I need a photoshoot, and I have not yet done my hair for the photoshoot, or I am waiting for some unexplainable miracle to happen before I start. Sometimes I give excuses that I have personally never even heard of such excuses myself. These excuses are just to make me feel good, or satisfied that I am not able to do the things that I really want. (Who really does that nowadays?). You know, when you procrastinate, you may end up accusing people of your failure, or even blaming people close to you that, they are the reason you are afraid to venture into anything.
I feel that fear is like bondage. Until one is set free from fear, fear will always limit you, and you can never jump into chasing your dreams talk less of achieving them. In order for you to achieve your goals, you need to jump into the unknown. You need to face the things that you are scared of which is my reason for creating this post.
One of the things I was scared of was starting this blog, and even writing my first blog post because I can be my own worst critic. I had to pray about my fears, talk to God about what I was passionate about, and I had to accept the fact that I could not do it on my own. I had to accept that, this life is filled with challenges, and this life has its own ups and downs, and it was high time I spoke to God, who is the author and finisher of my faith to guide me.
Like I mentioned above, fear is a person, and fear can tell you how unqualified you are, and how undeserving you are. Fear is a talkative, and is so good at reminding you of the times you tried something and failed. Before this blog post, fear spoke to me about how I never scored A’s in my essay writing back in college. If fear can talk, then I know fear can hear as well. I went ahead to shut fear down, and do what I like by talking back at it. At all times, fear would be talking back, and forth, about the times I failed, or didn’t do good, and there were times that fear was pointing at my background, and my financial status and all that. Listen dear reader, I just screamed back at fear saying: ‘God said it, and I believe it, that settles it’.
If God says you are worthy and deserving, who is fear to say otherwise?
God says you can do it, and He wants you to do it.
God says this is your time, and your season.
God says he is with you, so be confident. Walk like a child of a king, and dominate, win and overtake.
I have realized that time waits for no one at all. So, join me on this train as I ‘out do’ myself, and challenge myself to do the things I want to do. I urge you to do the same thing. It may be starting a new business, or even going to school, or writing a project, or travelling. It can be little things like reconciling with a friend, family or a loved one, or helping your spouse in the kitchen, or doing laundry or some house chore. It can even be going to church, or serving in an aspect in church. It can be trying to be more organized. Set some goals hommie.
Let’s dive into this together, and see the change you and I can achieve when you and I take these baby steps. Do not minimize the days of little beginning.
In the comment section below, tell me what you want to start that has been on your mind for a while. Until next time, hugs and much love.